Friday, 31 January 2014

M&M: Gun Shy

Dear reader,

in 2000 the actor Liam Neeson had the leading role as the DEA agent Charlie in the film „Gun Shy“. Charlie comes back from an undercover mission, which has gone horribly wrong. It ended in a disastrous shooting, in which Charlie's colleague got killed and almost got him killed as well. Instead Charlie ended up head first in a water melon. Needless to say that he hates melons since then. From that moment on he has severe digestive problems as well as anxiety. There's nothing he wants more than retirement and the view of the ocean.

On his flight back, Charlie meets the therapist Dr. Jeff Bleckner (Michael Mantell). He notices how uncomfortable Charlie is and offers him help. Dr. Bleckner suggests Charlie goes to do some group therapy. During those sessions Charlie finds out that he's far from being the only one unhappy with his (professional) life. As he tells the others about his problems, he falls on sympathetic ears. Charlie has to take on one last job to stop the scary mafia boss Fulvio and his money laundering business. Charlie is so nervous meeting Fulvio the first time, that Dr. Bleckner prescribes him some pills. The therapist makes it very clear to Charlie only to take one pill. But Charlie is so nervous and the effect doesn't come fast enough for Charlie. So he takes a second. That leads to Charlie not only being calm during the meeting, but he very much not to fall asleep. In the end Charlie can't fight it any longer and just falls asleep in his chair as he is. Fulvio is enthusiastic and impressed how Chrlie can go to sleep and just sleep peacefully.

Charlie and Fulvio become friends for real. That's how Charlie realises that the mean mafia boss is just a show. Fulvio's wish for life is to grow tomatos. He only plays the mean mafia boss, because that's what everyone seems to expect him to be like. So Fulvio is just one more person, who is unsatisfied and with totally different dreams for how his own life should be. Charlie decides to help him.

Charlie consults the beautiful Judy Tipp (Sandra Bullock) about his digestive problems, who not only is able to help him with alternative medicine about his bodily problems. He's also infected by her optimism and the to of them come closer.

All in all this film can't be taken too serious and is far from what might happen in real life. But the film has much humour and it's much fun for me to watch all those great actors. The characters were written which much love and care, even the smaller parts and I enjoy it a great deal to see them all with their quirks and their problems they are fighting with and do their best to stick to their dreams and come closer to fulfilling them. At the end of this turbulent adventure especially Charlie and Fulvio clearly learned something for themselves and have been through quite some changes and achieved things for themselves.

Until next blog,
sarah


Wednesday, 29 January 2014

Everything used to be better in the old days?

Dear reader,

2003 was the year in which our family-computer got an internet connection. We had a world of options!

We created e-mail addresses and suddenly we were writing much cheaper and faster e-mails to long distant family and friends. Do you remember when you wrote your last letter to someone all in handwriting? A letter, not a postcard! My last handwritten letter to someone was last year. More of a sort of accident, because I needed to send something for a new ID card and had no printer. My last letter before that? No idea. How about you?

How did you order presents for last christmas? I bought exactly one present in a shop. Everything else I ordered comfortably online over the internet. Somewhat sad really.

Anyway, what did we do without the internet in the earlier days? Read more, I suppose. In november 2012 the german newspaper “Frankfurter Rundschau” filed an application for bankruptcy at the court in Frankfurt on the Main. The printing costs were too high compared with the number of sales. Why buy a paper anyway, if you can read everything online for free? In february 2013 it was announced that the paper will keep on going still.


Maybe everything was better in the old days. At least many of us didn't spend that much time in front of a screen and went out with others more often. Are computers a bad thing as such though? The world is changing, that's just the way it is and cultures and people are changing. In the old days there were only books in libraries. Now you can get CDs and DVDs there as well. In the old days there were catalogues of libraries in boxes and information on index cards on paper. Now everything is in computers and you can search easily and fast. And you don't even have to go to the library to find they don't have the book you're looking for or you can't currently borrow it. We can check that online at home. Contrary to the online shopping, which makes me somewhat sad, although I do that, too, I quite like the online search in library catalogues. Or maybe not. Because without it, at least I'd be outside once... The computer doesn't, at least not for now, replace humans totally. The work does change a bit with computers though. I also don't yet see the danger of technological changes and inventions endangering our work place as such. Machines taking over the world? I don't think so. Because for that the machines (for now) have too little of a life of their own and in the end it's up to us, the users of the technology to decide if or how much and how to use it. Even though some tv programs by now are thought to be rather low and stupid by many people, I still trust the humans to not be controlled by machines that much in a sense that in the end the machines control the humans.

Or maybe they do? Because, what's left in a time of a black out that disables our devices? Even if in our desperation, we'd turn to our books, we'd need light for that to read them. Although that should cause no problem with the modern eBook-readers, even in a time of a black out. Or if you've got enough lights in the house and a match or fire-lighter.

In 2012 an australian film came out called Underground: The Julian Assange Story telling the story of the youth of Julian Assange, the founder and chief editor of WikiLeaks. There's a scene where the young Julian sits in his room with his girlfriend. It's already dark outside. She tells him of a place where she'd like to go and asks him, if he likes to travel. He tells her that he already has. When he's hacking computers, he travels all the time. Sitting here in his bedroom and at the same time being at the other side of the world. Then he asks her to look outside the window and pick a suburb. She does. Julian types in a few lines on the computer and suddenly all the lights to out in the suburb she told him. “Did you just do that?”, she asks him. He doesn't reply, just tells her to pick another suburb. “No”, she says. “All those poor people are in the dark.” “They are happy”, he says. “Did you know that nine months after a black out, there's always a rise in the number of child births?”

Finally the vision of the “Factory of the Future” as Warren G. Bennis saw it:

The factory of the future will have only two employees, a man and a dog. The man will be there to feed the dog. The dog will be there to keep the man from touching the equipment.

Until next blog,
sarah

Friday, 17 January 2014

Three Questions

Dear reader,

I don't know, who came up with those questions originally. If someones can prove it, please leave a comment, I'd be grateful.

In any case, Craig Ferguson once said in a Comedy Central performance, that three questions are important before you speak... even more so before you write something on the internet, where it essencially stays there forever:

1. Does it have to be said?
2. Does it have to be said by me?
3. Does it have to be said by me now?

Here's a video clip of Craig Verguson's performance, or rather a preview of it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIdox3zpv-w

Until next blog,
sarah

Tuesday, 24 December 2013

M&M: Nightmare Before Christmas

Dear reader,

did you ever thought about the holidays we celebrate? Easter, Valentines Day, Halloween, Christmas? The animated film “Nightmare Before Christmas” by Tim Burton is just about that!

Jack Skellington is a skinny skeleton in a black-and-white striped suit and the head of Halloween Town, who's people are responsible for Halloween. Jack is sad. For a while now he didn't have fun scaring others and he wants something else. Only he doesn't know what that might be. During a walk he comes to another town: Christmas Town. Everything there is snowy and has a wonderful scent and everybody has fun and is happy. Also there's supposedly somebody huge and red and he brings presents. Jack finds out that this somebody is called “Sandy Claws”. Wonderful!

Jack wants this Christmas, too. He'll be preparing for the next one himself. Three kids, usually out to collect sweets are send by Jack to kidnap Sandy Claws so that Jack can do his job. Although Jack specifically tells the kids not to bring Sandy Claws to Oogie Boogie, that's exactly what they do. Oogie Boogie is the only really mean and scary person in Halloween Town and ready to kill somebody just to be entertained, that's especially true for this oh so great Sandy Claws.

Jack doesn't see any of that coming and everybody is excited. Only Sally is very worried. She's a bit like the Frankenstein monster stitched together and is held captive by her creator, Doctor Finkelstein in his castle. She likes Jack. Jack doesn't quite see that. In a vision she sees Christmas go completely and utterly wrong, so she does everything she can, to stop Jack's plan. Jack doesn't listen to her at all. Christmas goes totally wrong and ends in Jack being shot down with his flying sleigh. Only then does he realise how wrong he was, although he had meant well. Sandy Claws has to come back! Will Jack rescue him and with that Christmas in time? You've got to find out for yourself!

Like many animated films by Tim Burton, “Nightmare Before Christmas" has many songs and it's a kind of musical. The music was written by his permanent partner, the composer Danny Elfman. The latter also was the singing voice for Jack Skellington. Although Danny Elfman does the singing for demos of his songs, his voice is not heard in the films. That's what makes “Nightmare Before Christmas” something special for fans. When I saw the film for the first time, I didn't know Tim Burton as such, I have to admit. I knew his films – in hindsight – but the name got familiar for me only after “Nightmare Before Christmas”. I was lucky to see that film when a professor at uni offered to show it to those willing to come one afternoon before Christmas holidays. Being handicapped myself, I was fascinated with Sally and her body parts stitched together. One scene especially is just brilliant, when she runs away from the castle of the doctor to see Jack. She jumps out of the window. For a moment you almost believe she died from the jump. She's lying there motionless on the ground. But then she moves and stitches one of her arms tight to the rest again in a very resolute way. It's gone loose from the jump.

Jack was a very special character for Danny Elfman at the time the movie was made in 1993. His music career started in about 1972 when he started in the music group formed by his brother Richard Elfman. When Richard wanted to quit, Danny took over the group and it was cut from 20 to just 8 people and went on to be a New Wave/Ska/Punk/Rock Band: Oingo Boingo. They recorded their first album “Only A Lad” in 1980. According to Danny Elfman he still doesn't get it why the young director Tim Burton wanted him of all people to write the music for his first big film “Pee Wee's Big Adventure” in 1985. That's how Danny Elfman got into the film business. He got more and more famous as a film music composer and then it became obvious to him that he couldn't go on with Oingo Boing and composing for film at the same time. Both together were just taking too much time and energy. But how to choose? How should he go on? A very uncertain future for Jack Skellington in the movie as well as Danny Elfman in real life. It was this connection with Jack, not only through writing the lyrics and music, but also on a personal level, which made Danny Elfman want to sing the part of Jack Skellington himself – which he did in the end.

Until next blog,
sarah

Monday, 23 December 2013

My Christmas Song "List" 2013

Dear reader,

the "usual" christmas songs are fine for a while for me. I prefer unusual. Here are a couple of songs, which I have and listen to, which are christmassy:

"Christmas Time Will Soon Be Over" by Jack White

I heard it for the first time in the film respectively soundtrack of "Cold Mountain". An upbeat, happy melody, something different from the more usual slow songs. The song tells the story of a group, who will join the band when christmas time will soon be over.

(The video link has the Royal Albatross. Sadly I couldn't find any other video or audio with Jack White, some youtube links are blocked for germany due to some copyright/rights regulations.... sorry about that):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPoJE92yvvM

"Christmas In Hollis" by Run DMC

I learned about this song watching the film "Die Hard". Bruce Willis is in a limousine and is driven from the airport to the building where his wife is having a christmas party with her company, to which he is also invited. He complains that this isn't a christmas song and it does sound more like rap, far away from what we'd associate with sounds and music for christmas. But as the driver points out to Bruce Willis, "This is christmas music!" The text tells the story of someone, who goes for a walk in a park on christmas and seems to see someone with a dog. The dog happens to be a reindeer and it's very sick and the man next to it isn't just somebody, but santa claus.

Here's the music video to the song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OR07r0ZMFb8

"The Stowaway" by Murray Gold/performed by Yamit Mamo

"Doctor Who" fans may know this song from the 10th Doctor (David Tennant). You can find it on the soundtrack to the 3rd series. I like it, because it's a happy, dynamic melody. Although the song is a bit sad. The singer tells about a "stowaway" on his ship. Which applies quite well to the Doctor in the episode "Voyage of The Damned", in which this song is played. In this christmas episode he's on the Titanic. The stowaway of the song desperately wants to be with his love on christmas day.

You can listen to the song on youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hoXF6H_venI

"Christmas Hell" (variaton of "Jingle Bells") by Danny Elfman

Not really a song in a real sense, more a short promo by Danny Elfman, the composer of the music of "Nightmare Before Christmas" with his very own version of "Jingle Bells". More on "Nightmare Before Christmas" later (later as in "in a new blog post", linked to it, now that it's done)... I thought I'll add it here, even though it's not a proper song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcgtOkj9ubU

"White Wine In The Sun" by Tim Minchin

A christmas song? Or more a song for and to his little daughter? Or both? I like Tim Minchin, as you may have guessed from previous entries and I like this song. He's australian and in australia there's no snow on christmas, of course. White is only the wine for him.

In the video he's singing this as an encore, I think during his tour "Ready For This":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iwfLN4K1hA

Do you have christmas songs you like to listen to? If so which ones?

Until next blog,
sarah

Friday, 20 December 2013

Postscript: Stop feeling sorry, but be compassionate!

Dear reader,

Susanne was so kind to point me to something very important about my last post: there's a difference between pity and compassion. I want to elaborate on that more now. Many thanks to Lisa as well for the stimulating chat!

For me pity is what I described in my last post. The professor has no arms. In my view, we need arms. She doesn't have arms, so I pity her. But as I already wrote, the professor at least seems to be happy, even without arms! So there is no reason to feel sorry or shocked or whatever for long. She's fine the way she is. It seems to me that pity has a lot to do with assumptions we make. Those assumptions should be tested and if possible lead to action of some kind or another afterwards. A bit like Sherlock Holmes. It would be bad to be stuck in an assumption and that was it.

Compassion is something different. With compassion someone might be shocked or startled at first. For example to learn that I'm missing my right foot. An important next step could be to ask, if or how I needed help. When I explain that I can walk, run and ride a bike fine, it's okay that I have got only one foot. I would need help swimming. Because I have to take off the prosthesis for that. That means that I have to get to the edge of the swimming pool or as close to the sea as possible with the prosthesis on, but then the prosthesis should be away from the water so it doesn't get wet all over. Then when I get out of the water I need the prosthesis back and someone either has to get it for me, or help me get to the prosthesis.

That's important and necessary. Generally speaking the professor and I are fine with our handicap. It's also fine to feel sorry for a moment that we lack arms respectively a foot. The important thing is how to react and deal with that in the longer term. That if we need help, we don't only have people around us who feel sorry for our situation and don't dare helping us or for whatever other reason don't act. When we need help some time, it's important for us to have people around, who understand and help us.

In the social field or among people working in communications there's a word often used: empathy. Recognise and understand what the other person is feeling. That may sometimes mean crying along with them. That's important and right. However it should happen for a limited time only. After that it's important to think it through together how things can go on from there. That's very important. Because if someone is really in a bad situation, that person needs help and not only someone to cry along with them. Even though the saying goes: A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved. It's even better if this sorrow has an end and one can get out of a bad situation easier and faster with others than alone.

Until next blog,
sarah

Stop feeling sorry!

Dear reader,

many people, especially those I meet on the internet, feel sorry when they learn that I was born handicapped. I'm missing my right foot from birth. But, as I keep telling those people all the time: I can walk normally, run, ride a bike with a prosthesis. Still the first reaction from many is, “I'm sorry.” Why anyway? Sometimes I say or write to them that probably they feel more sorry than I ever feel for myself. I was born this way. I don't know any other way. I don't miss my right foot. I never had it, but I always had a prosthesis.

Years ago, during my studies, I had some seminars with a professor with no arms. Although I never dared asking her directly, I assume she doesn't have arms because of Contergan. Once her son was in the seminar and she told us she's got a second son. In one discussion group in a seminar, she told us that she never had the need to put her arm around someone. The reaction of all of us at first certainly was shock. We're so used to hugging someone. Be it as a form of greeting or to comfort. And she has got two sons! Of course would I have the need to hug my sons, comfort them, put my arm around them, and cradle the little kid in my arm. Wouldn't I? And yet she seemed at the very least content with her life. She had said it herself, she never had had the need to put her arm around someone. Why then do I feel sorry for her, that she, especially with her two sons, could and can never put her arms around someone? I think, we're feeling sorry very quickly for others when we see or learn about something that's existing for us or possible for us, but not existing or not possible for them. But what good does it do to feel sorry then? Not at all.

My landlady and friends of my parents, consequently also mine, I guess, told me the other day that she was to give one of her sons money. That money was to come from another person, who didn't give it to her on time for her to give the money to her son on time. So when the son asked her about the money, she had to tell him she didn't have it... and said to him that she was sorry. Talking to me and thinking back about it, she questioned, why she had felt sorry about it. It hadn't been her fault that the other person didn't give the money on time!

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and especially stop feeling sorry for others! That's not helping anybody. When someone is in a bad situation, he or she needs help, not pity. If you want to help and the other person genuinely needs help, help them. That's all you can do. Everything else ends in you feeling sorry and then what? Then you feel bad yourself. That's not helping you or the other person.

Until next blog,
sarah